Sex was great, then we married part 3

[MrBond]

I notice you didn't have a counter-point to my previous posts.

"And if she had a problem, wouldn’t it only make sense for me to help her fix it?"

This sums it all up. This is not how people work. It's not your job to help her "fix" what's wrong with her if she doesn't want it or if she doesn't think she's "broken" in the first place.

"But isn’t the fundamental point of all of Michele’s books I’ve read that spouses have different needs and it’s up to both sides to compromise or face consequences? "

No that is not the fundamental point of her books. And besides, I thought you only read SSM. What you're describing is an adult-child relationship.

"Why should she “fix” anything for her husband? Because of love."

Yet what if there was something she said you needed fixing, but you didn't see there's anything wrong? That's the whole point.

"You’re saying I need to love a sexless marriage, or wait until everyone agrees it’s officially sexless, then love it? "

You still don't get it. NO one said you had to do that. We've all been telling you that right now, your W is sick and just needs some patience from you. Period.

You keep insisting that your M is not about the sex, yet you constantly bring it up. Again, I don't see why you're arguing the point because everyone is basically saying the same thing.