Same thing your W said to a friend is kinda what my W said directly to me.
MY W: People asked me did you ever say I Love You, please don't go, let's work on this but no you never did any of that. The thing you said was this will financially ruin you.
Me: I did ask to work on things for the 2 months before I moved out, I said I love you and all that. Do you want to know why I haven't said it since? I continued to say I told you last June this will be emotionally devastating and financially ruining.
My W: The 1st time you said Loved me was after the hearing last Monday and after asking me if I was having an A. You said it is ok I still love you we can work it out. This was after a year
Me: I said I did say I love you and wanted to work things out that the A was not a deal breaker but OM had to out of the picture.
My W: well, you just live your existence in there(pointing to the spare room) and I will live mine here(pointing towards our Bedroom).
I am pondering the same course of action as you, I am not sure it is helpful or not though. I believe my W knows my feelings so pounding it into her would be pressure in my mind.
If I had any advice it is to stay patient and if you feel you need to still communicate this to your W then that is your choice to do so. But make sure you are prepared for any outcome of this choice.
She probably knows your feelings and it just confused as we all know WAS can be. My W chose not to allow me to tell her why I haven't done certain things that people asked if I did. Looking back on the this conversation W and I two days ago I am glad W didn't let me tell her things because I was not fully prepared to explain in a way that wouldn't have been needy or clingy.
Hang in there!!
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
