confrontation methods?

[pbetra]

Thanks Cadet for all the info.

sorry about the 'double post'. I thought that confrontation may have been a separate theme (?) & should not be 'buried' under multiple posts, in the event that someone needed that specific information (as I felt I did). will not in future ...

I have no intention of making h do anything, I have no hope re: him ... absolutely no expectations re our relationship. H needs to do what he needs to do - unfortunatley luck/$ isn't on his side, & impacting on me as 'the build up' continues. I have read many of your posts & others as I continue to do my homework. I know h won't listen. He has controlling mother, anything I do will be perceived as such. I am trying to control ME which is why I am at this junction.

You have made me think about the kind of boundaries I have to make.
Right now I want him away somehow - he makes me sick. I put a lot into the last few months. I am deeply hurt - now I feel the need for SPACE from him. I am becoming more anxious and depression is setting in. Can't think straight w/ him, feel freer when he steps out.

I will take a break -
> I will try to meditate.
> I will think about distance vs going dark
and maybe after the two ...
> I may come up with a boundry or two that can actually work in my sitch.

Thanks again for getting back as always. p