Slow, slow, slow is right. You have lots of work ahead of you. Things aren't magically fixed. I can tell you from personal experience that there's a honeymoon phase to reconciliation and then, because we're creatures of habit, we can easily fall back into the old relationship. In the blink of an eye.
But enjoy the heck out of the now.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
