"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[GoatGal]

Me: Just curious---any thoughts on how many WAS stay gone if there is no OP involved?

Not that it matters much, I just wonder about my H. He is not running "to" someone or something, he's just running away...


Cadet:

"A lot

Just dont make me define the length of TIME involved cause that is unknown.

Some of it might involve where his wounding came from in early childhood.

Another words if he is acting like a five year old, how long does it take him to grow up."

I figured this was probably the case.
My H has incredible childhood wounds he's been avoiding his whole life.
It's come to the point where he's either got to face them, or live the rest of his life trying to suppress them even more---and it's not working for him.

As for acting like a five-year-old, I've seen and heard that little boy over the last few years.
H has spoken in a high, whiney voice, putting his fingers in his ears/hands over his ears... chanting/repeating things to drown me out.
Just like a little kid. And there is no adult discussion to be had.

It's kind of frightening.

So how long will it take?

Who knows?

How long will I hang around?

Probably not long enough.

I need to see a real glimmer of hope.

If I were 30, it'd be different.

But as it is, I've given myself until Feb 2016, which is when he can finalize the divorce with or without me.
If he does push it through at that late date, then I'm done.

I will have put up with almost four years of 60-year-old childish behavior, and enough is enough already.

I think he knows this too. If not, he will. Some day.

--GG