"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[GoatGal]

Ggrass: "It's time to have friends, gg people who are Truely appreciative of us and know how great we are.
From the sound of you in your posts you and I sound alike, but I'm not so eloquent in the written word."


Ggrass, we DO sound alike! (And my written word only flows freely because it's all so piled up in my head it has to find a little crack to spill out...)

And yes, it IS great to feel appreciated, really appreciated, for who WE ARE as core beings, rather than what we can do for someone else or the role we play in their lives.
Those roles are really important, but it's not "WHO WE ARE".

This experience has actually made me more compassionate, more loving, more open.
I find myself at the receiving end of a lot of heartfelt stuff from others.
Maybe it's because I'm vulnerable, maybe it's because I'm "safe" to talk to... but others are sharing with me in ways they never did before, all kinds of people.

And I'm giving it back. It feels good.
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daring: "It really is good to get that ego boost- to realize that you are attractive to others and not some awful person. Must be something about going through this situation and how we project ourselves- I hadn't been hit on in years but since BD and separating from my H, even when I was still wearing my ring, I got hit on multiple times on 2 business trips. Same here-no taking anyone up on action but lots of self esteem building."

It is SOOOOOO good to get that ego boost! It's been so long since I felt appreciated by my H as a woman, and all that goes with it.

But it is funny how somehow we're starting to project something different about ourselves.

Same for me with ring on/off... even with people who didn't know me or my sitch... it's just a "openness" I guess.

Before this happened was "closed"; I wore my marriage like a coat of armor.
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Hey--that makes me think.

Do you think our spouses decided to "open" themselves, and thereby discovered/invited their OPs to intrude?

If so, was it conscious or unconscious?
Did the temptation come first and then the opening?
Or were they already "looking" and "available" in their minds?

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This is not about deciphering the behavior of our spouses, more a philosophical discussion...about fidelity, attraction, and some subtle social cues (which you can BET I'm missing!)

It is a curious thing because in my mind I'm not "doing" anything "different".
I am *just* thinking differently about myself and my M.

Makes you wonder about that "vibrating at a higher frequency" thing (as per "The Secret") and opening your soul (more "self-help" readings) REALLY, TRULY having a tangible effect in the world, or at least, being perceived by others.

It certainly seems so.

I have said that since I started really trying to think about being "open" and "vibrating higher with positive thoughts" and "keeping my heart/soul/mind open" to others, not "fighting" reality or "resisting" what *IS*, that others' reactions to me have changed.

(Think about when we were first dating our spouses. This is HOW WE WERE! This is how they are with OPs and visa versa. No wonder they're so enamored! Whereas, with all our M frustrations, we became "closed" and often resentful... I know I did. Definitely. We have been vibrating at a lower frequency, for sure, within our R and currently quite often because of our realities. Our pain and anger give out the worst "vibes" ever!!! We need to change that!)

The joke is now: "I am a friggin' LOVE MAGNET!"
In the grocery store, on the road... it's like people are smiling and attracted to me...maybe because I choose to be happy????

Food for thought...

But you ladies made my morning!!!!!

Go feel your power out in the world today and strut your awesome-ness!
(Don't know if that's a word, but I like it! )


----GG

PS: My big rooster, Bart, has taken to following me around the place. So I'm giving off some vibe for sure.
(If I start laying eggs, call Ripley's Believe It or Not! They better be golden!!!)