thanks Betsey! Parents expect a lot from their kids in Asian culture and are expected to look after them. Part of Voldy's problem is that she expects the kids to be fully aware of her needs and act on them without having to be told...and it doesn't work. Last night I took D20 out for dinner (D17 was out with bf) and then we went down to the Lake to take photos together. It was her suggestion(I have some on FB of D20 from last night). We had a lovely time. My IC had suggested that I take time to be just be with D20 every week or two. She had been out handing out resumes as she had said she would do. She had emailed us a copy of her job search plans for the week, as agreed. Voldy did email her back saying how proud she was of her for following through as she promised. Voldy is often an angry human being but, at least, she does often show love to her kids, believe it or not...when she's not being an angry child!
