BC39.....The fight for my marriage continues

[BC39]

-she says she yearns for intimacy and connection. I think we have a great connection, so I ask her to articulate what these things mean to her...she can't

-she compares us to other couples and couples on TV

-I tell her I'm confused because everything seemed to be going in the right direction for the last year. She talked about the future often. In fact, she was talking about the future 1 hour before this latest BD. She said she was just trying to be positive. I know the difference between "positive" and "genuine", but who knows.

-She told me repeatedly during this last convo that she loved me. Told me how great of a husband, father and person I am. How much I've done in the last 2 years (since first BD)

-Everyone around us doesn't understand. She has everything anyone would want.

-A switch went off inside her during EA/BD 2 years ago that I can't switch back on.

-She had a hysterectomy 8 months ago. It possible her hormones have been out of whack for the last 3 years and continue to be. You can see the fluctuations in her.

-I understand there is nothing I can do about it. I continue to try to improve myself. I asked her to go spend some time at her sisters so she could have some space. She came back after 2 days. It is very uncomfortable at the house. I have been lovingly detached. She appears to be mirroring this to me.