So I went to h place to drop the tax stuff and said that I would like to take up his offer to help with the bills and to help me look for a house for the boys and I to move into. I told him that I'm realising that when I get a whole heap of information coming at me at once, and it becomes to much, I need to go away and think about it, he was quite ok with this, we had a bit more general chit chat, our eldest son was still awake and he was relaxed for the first time in a while, I think he could see that mum and dad were relaxed. H actually sat on the couch next to me for the first time in weeks (small step) we put son into bed, he is scared of the dark and I made him laugh by telling him I would get huge photo of mummy making a silly face, he said he would like a photo of all of us as a family, H was just there so said to son that I thought that would be something that mummy and daddy could talk about. I left not long after that, relaxed and said I'd be there in the morning to watch the boys. He's texted a few times about tax stuff and then rang to talk about the same, kept it light, asked him what he thought the right thing to do would be. All in all a positive end to an average day
