"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[Ggrass]

Zew,

Just to be clear: There is no way I would ever get involved with anyone who does not respect or care for me. Period.

And that includes my husband. (Or whoever he is now.)

I'm not sure if that's what you were warning me against... being taken advantage of/used by someone.
If so, I appreciate your concern!

But no.
These are friends I've known for years, we have mutual friends in common, all that.
I've just always been "unavailable" and to their credit, they've always been on their best behavior with me; very respectful with me as a married woman.
I would not have tolerated anything less.

Now I'm---"Maybe, might be...some time...available...?"
And since I changed my mindset, and the rumor mill has churned, I notice there is more...interest. And I'm surprised at this.

But my self-esteem is way too strong to be taken advantage of by someone who is looking for *just* a hookup.
Won't happen.

My biggest concern is ME potentially hurting someone who is kind-hearted and sincere, perhaps naive.... I would never want to involved someone in this mess that masquerades as my life.

I will not "date" or become involved with anyone unless/until I am divorced.
At which point I plan to have no further direct communication with H.

Until then, flirting is OK. As is telling the "interested" parties that I am "in a difficult situation, and not really free to pursue a relationship at this time."

And that's the truth.

Am I taking numbers?

You betcha!

---GG

This Is me, except my h hasn't looked remotely back. I'm getting hit on and perved on at work constantly often openly by guys.

I am really scared to even look but my confidence must be shining thru, and I cannot remember the last time it did. Even the pants I bought in may are starting to loosen. Everything I own nearly needs a belt. Clothes I wore in jan feb will not stay on.

It's time to have friends, gg people who are Truely appreciative of us and know how great we are.

Actually gg. From the sound of you in your posts you and I sound alike, but I'm not so eloquent in the written word.