First of all try to stick to one thread until you get to 100 posts, it will be less confusing in the future and easier to follow along with what you have been told and the details of your sich.
As far as confrontation, the only thing you can do is to have a boundary and enforce your boundary. You can try to confront however it is also very likely that they wont listen or try follow anything that you say. The ultimate boundary is divorce.
You can only control YOU, you cant make him do anything, you can change the way you react to what he does and hope that he changes.
