Just thinking out loud, I was just talking to a really good friend, and we were talking about when h and I first got together, he effectively 'rescued' me, thinking that h likes to be the proverbial knight in sshining Armour, I also know that with the ow, they validated him, told him he was a great guy, funny etc, lots of stuff I stopped doing. So maybe the key with h is a little bit of vulnerability? Not needy or clingy, but accept his help with the bills, and him wanting to help move me and the boys into a new house? I have to go round there later to drop off some tax stuff so I'm writing myself a script of what I want to say, so i don't stumble or fall into my usual negative speaking, any advice?
