The morning sun is shining like a red rubber ball.

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks Job.

I have calmed down. Just needed some time to work through it.

I know I have no control over what happens in J's world. Frankly I do not care, except how it affects my kids. I am a bit irritated with J also because he disconnected the landline. Not that I care but it would be nice to know because I have it programmed into my phone and it's been listed as the primary contact number for us and the kids for years. He never even mentioned it to me. Did he notify anyone in his family about this like his mother? His sisters? Anyone? He seems to think people find out this information by accident and that is just okay. Plus I tried to get a hold of him via his cell phone yesterday and today with no answer. Yesterday he was using OW's phone because "something" happened to his. Maybe they intend to share a phone since they can't seem to be apart long enough to use the bathroom. If I need to contact J about the kids, how am I supposed to do that? I guess I just don't.

I am planning to switch S's phone over to my plan. That way the bill will be paid and I can monitor it. I know J is just playing games to get me to take over S's cell phone bill. I think I will let him squeeze a bit longer. I'm trying to be one step ahead and I suspect J thinks I will get irritated and p*ssed off enough to take over the bill. If I don't react quick enough he might just ask me to. I guess the key in this whole dynamic is to outlast J kind of like in the divorce process.

Which speaking of that, since J was the petitioner in our case he is responsible for filing the Findings of Fact, Conclusions of Law and Judgement of Divorce. My attorney emailed J today to ask him if he was aware he was required to do these things and had he done them? So far no response from J. I think he was playing hooky from work. I sent him an email about the kids and got an out of office bounceback.

Not sure what happens if J doesn't do this. I'm not paying my attorney to do anything else. J can pay his attorney to advise him.

Hoping the weekend without the kids goes quickly. I miss those kids so much I could pop!

WH