Had another convo with WAW, she called me on her way home. Hopefully I can provide some insight for all of you.
She was struggling just as much as I was! All the times I thought she was out living it up (I was convinced), she was having a terrible time. She said she cried all the time and missed me terribly. She just couldn't figure out how to fix things. She said she was hoping I would chase her. I told her I didn't because I wanted to respect her wish to separate from me.
Don't chase them guys and gals! Do not chase them! Just like the book says, no pursuit.
Now comes the hard part, trying to rebuild a completely new relationship. I have no intentions of going anywhere, without DB and this board, I would have been toast.
There were so many days I didn't think I could do this anymore. I couldn't take the pain. I was ready to throw in the towel. That's exactly when she started coming around. It's like they can feel it in the air that the WAS is beginning to let go.
SHe is just as cautious as I am. We're both scared. Slow slow slow super slowwwwww.
She seems to be the pursuer now. She is asking all kinds of questions and I can feel her smiling on the phone when she calls me. Good feeling? Yes! But I also know about premature reconciliation. Slow slow slow..
