I'm sorry to hear about your IRS hold. I am also dealing with a taxes issue and just had to put all the financials together with data to back them up- it is a pain! Hopefully you can get it worked out so it doesn't impact your finances so much.
The scant contact with the older teens seems to be common with MLC. One of the books I read said men in MLC envy their teenage sons and the freedom and " whole life ahead of them" feeling. I am sure it is similar with women MLCers and their daughters. Hopefully your consistency with your kids will offset some of the distance with their mom. Sending prayers your way!
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown