Because choosing to keep going with someone that is not willing to work on themselves or gives lip service that they will, is just futile. It's just treading water.
That's kind of life, isn't it? Making choices like that? And heck, if it was easy, everyone would do it
Kimmerz, it's just part of the learning process. You meet somebody, and you take your chances. It works, or it doesn't. Unlike in marriage, there's no commitment to stick around though.
You can't fix everyone. But some imperfect person will come along that will be worth working together with. Don't worry about that...
Are there examples? Of course. I had lunch today with an old friend. Her husband is the one I talked about marrying the OW on the same day the divorce was final. Know what? She and her ex have dinner with the kids all the time. They enjoy each other's company. She won't take him back, but it's not like he doesn't want back. There's just too much hurt behind it for her to overcome. To be honest, I think she wants him back in some way. But she has to overcome the hurt before that can happen and that may not happen. Meanwhile she dates losers (there are plenty of good people out there, but so far she still picks ones she would need to fix).
You deserve better, my friend. See it for what it is, and make your choice. If you decide to stay, do it with eyes open. If you decide to leave, do it with eyes open. Take what you've learned and use it.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
