"I know she is getting that from OM, he tells her to not call me her husband. He demands that she says the house I live in etc...
He even told her to call his car her car and that she HAS to call his apartment their apartment or he would ignore her!!!!!
I can not believe she puts up with this."
You talk to her the same way. now that's what I don't get. If the affair was all about the way I treat her, why did she pick someone that even the MC and her old IC said was 100x worse then me? The collaborative divorce coach said it was that she wanted to be romanced, that she could fix him, felt bad for him and fantasizes about the life he was offering. He also said I can't forget that she has come back to me in some regard. So Mr. Bond I was told I need to be more of an Alpha man, how does this fit into all of what this site and DB has said. It seems that an Alpha is more demanding etc.
"My concern is, how is asking her to not text him and call him right under my nose when we are visiting our son being controlling."
That's not what you said she was doing earlier. In fact, I don't recall you "asking" her to not do anything. You demanded that she not take her cell phone. That was the controlling part.
