She says she's conflicted (part 2)

[MrBond]

"I know she is getting that from OM, he tells her to not call me her husband. He demands that she says the house I live in etc...

He even told her to call his car her car and that she HAS to call his apartment their apartment or he would ignore her!!!!!

I can not believe she puts up with this."

You talk to her the same way.

"My concern is, how is asking her to not text him and call him right under my nose when we are visiting our son being controlling."

That's not what you said she was doing earlier. In fact, I don't recall you "asking" her to not do anything. You demanded that she not take her cell phone. That was the controlling part.