Maybe try and play out the various scenarios in your head, all the pro and cons, until their conclusions?
How would you feel down the road if X happened, or Y happened, and WHY that would be...?
Maybe that will help you make a decision.
I don't think many would have an issue with the annulment.
In fact, if this was a situation where he played you for a green card (he wouldn't be the first, but SHAME ON HIM if that's true), why not go for an annulment since it was never a "real" marriage? It's true that you then wouldn't have to carry that "divorce" around the rest of your life, the truth being you may have simply been taken advantage of by a scoundrel.
Of course, it was real in your heart, but there is no fix for that. I wish there were.
Are there any repercussions for him as far as using you to obtain a green card? I mean--can it be revoked?
(I know most folks here probably wouldn't advocate that, but there are laws, and if he really DID abuse you in this way...well, I don't know.)
Of course, you're the only one who can answer these questions for yourself.
What will you be able to live with ten years from now?
Hang in there!
--GG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
