Ok so I have a deep issue to attend and I need some outside opinion for this so I know I'm not biased.
My parents are very old fashioned and religious. They want me to file for annulment before the divorce is complete so I'm never on record as divorced.
Here are the facts. My then bf (husband) told me the only reason we needed to get married so quickly was because he was going to get deported to Israel. At this time I loved him and believed him to love me and I agreed. We got married quickly in the courthouse. This was followed by us going to the immigration lawyer right away for his green card papers. He lived illegally in the country until we were married.
The day after he went to update his green card status he claimed he was unhappy. This is what lead us to our final fight. I accused him of using me for a green card due to the timing of his complaints which I've since apologized for but now have begin to question again. He has used that accusation as a reason for us to divorce.
Now to be honest I don't know if he ever loved me or if this was a ruse for a green card. He left so abruptly it felt planned. Not speaking to him and speaking to others have really shifted my thinking. I think there is a chance he may have used me and this is no longer an issue about saving my marriage but catching a criminal in the act.
So I have contacted an annulment lawyer. Part of me wants the divorce to be done the other doesn't like the idea of someone abusing the marital system.
What are your opinions? Should I allow the divorce to proceed or seek annulment to relief my religious family. I don't know how I feel. I guess used if its all true...sickened by him. Actually anybody behaving in that manner disgusts me. When I think about this I can't love him anymore. If he did this I can't love him. It makes me sick. Anybody in a similar situation?
