Thanks for your input. I read your posting. Great news for you! I will post over there with some thoughts.
I am sure there is some merit to testing the waters in my sitch. I am really just not sure to what extent. I did do something earlier. I had the kids at a really popular 'tourist' place for dinner. I took picts of the kids, and ended up sending one of each of the kids to her. She has done this frequently in the past 10 days or so. I do not expect any kind of response, as I assume she is working this evening. But nevertheless, I broke the NC I had been doing.
Another interesting turn (no mind reading, just journaling) was today she referred to me as her husband twice in conversation. Once when she was telling me a story about her interaction with someone in the past day or so, and another today when we were interacting with a 3rd party. I am sure it is nothing, but it has been a while since she used that term to describe me.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16