She says she's conflicted (part 2)

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I agree, I need to not treat her like a child.

I know she is getting that from OM, he tells her to not call me her husband. He demands that she says the house I live in etc...

He even told her to call his car her car and that she HAS to call his apartment their apartment or he would ignore her!!!!!

I can not believe she puts up with this.


My concern is, how is asking her to not text him and call him right under my nose when we are visiting our son being controlling.

Would any man allow his wife to text her "boyfriend" right in front of him...

I have learned a lot from this site. I avoid any relationship talk, I have learned to ignore her temper etc. Except when it gets out of control, but I am not responding with anger.

The only thing is today she came home and was biting at me constant biting, the woman I had been married to was back..I even said, I can tell your viewing us as married because your admitting when I upset you...

She said that was true and she appreciated that I was not getting angry back at her.

Then about an hour later she went all manic about something I was supposed to do for her without checking whether I had done it or not..

I did say to her...Look I know you spoke on the phone today, just because someone else is getting you worked up don't take it out on me. I don't deserve this.

She got into something about her affair. I said I don't really hold that against you its just that even your affair is my fault.

She said look it did not get physical until I asked you for a divorce (my words from weeks ago), I said I know that and now that your home I don't even think about that anymore..

It calmed her down...