New here - frozen in should I stay or should I go?

[woundedfool]

It was tongue in cheek. :-) I'm having it shipped to my work address.

Good

BTW, I want to commend you.... you seem to be the one recognizing there is repair and healing that needs to be done. You seemed ready to cut the ties and take the D route out (what we would refer to as a "walk away spouse"). In my short experience here, it seems the opposite of the typical DB'er. Please keep an open mind during this process, and keep your heart open to what the future may (or may not) bring.

At worst, you will make yourself into a better stronger person. At best you will find renewed love and save your marriage.