WH, I can understand you anger and I would be angry too w/the way things are going down in "J's" household, however, there is nothing you can do about the situation, except provide a safe haven for your children when they are w/you, i.e., which you do.
When you get home this evening, use that anger to complete some "dreadful" project that you've had on the back burner for quite some time. You definitely need an outlet to let that steam off.
I'm sorry things aren't going well and the ow is glued to J's pants leg. Hopefully, in time, she'll get tired of parading herself around and making snippy remarks.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
