afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

Still thinking about yesterday's conversation with my W.

I am trying real hard not to mind read and taking what W says to me with the knowledge of a WAW behavior.

I am listening to her and validating when I don't backslide. She is the one that is always yelling and I try to listen.

My problem is through all the yelling and frustration my W is projecting, I feel she is trying to tell me something but I am too afraid to ask questions because she is still saying " I done" I don't love you" etc...When I have asked her to communicate her feelings to me. I get the standard line "I tried and I have told you a million times." next breath she says "I thought you weren't listening to me but you were because all these changes and things you are doing is what I wanted." Yet you haven't changed.

Even if I weren't hesitant to ask some questions, I think it might just be the same old answers so probably isn't worth it.

So I sit and wonder if I am missing something that might be important in our exchanges and if I knew then I could take the correct path.

I guess it is as easy as She is "done" and that is what I have to realize.