New here - frozen in should I stay or should I go?

[woundedfool]

I thought DB wouldn't be helpful for me?

It can't hurt... DR "spoke" to me more then DB, but I am still glad I read both.

I guess I don't know the difference between counseling and therapy... I went to an individual counselor (as did H) and we both went to MC. As for MC, I didn't want to go, he did. I don't feel that I got anything out of it. It felt very negative to me and just served to remind me how things went wrong and why I feel they way I do.

Both DR & DB address the styles of MC. One keyword to hammer home is Solutions Based Therapy (or somethimes referred to as Solution Focused Brief Therapy), it is NOT long term psychoanalysis (you know, blaming everything on how your were raised, what you experienced in life).

I had very good experiences with SBT, and was very comfortable with where I was after a a couple of visits.