"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[GoatGal]

Zew,

Just to be clear: There is no way I would ever get involved with anyone who does not respect or care for me. Period.

And that includes my husband. (Or whoever he is now.)

I'm not sure if that's what you were warning me against... being taken advantage of/used by someone.
If so, I appreciate your concern!

But no.
These are friends I've known for years, we have mutual friends in common, all that.
I've just always been "unavailable" and to their credit, they've always been on their best behavior with me; very respectful with me as a married woman.
I would not have tolerated anything less.

Now I'm---"Maybe, might be...some time...available...?"
And since I changed my mindset, and the rumor mill has churned, I notice there is more...interest. And I'm surprised at this.

But my self-esteem is way too strong to be taken advantage of by someone who is looking for *just* a hookup.
Won't happen.

My biggest concern is ME potentially hurting someone who is kind-hearted and sincere, perhaps naive.... I would never want to involved someone in this mess that masquerades as my life.

I will not "date" or become involved with anyone unless/until I am divorced.
At which point I plan to have no further direct communication with H.

Until then, flirting is OK. As is telling the "interested" parties that I am "in a difficult situation, and not really free to pursue a relationship at this time."

And that's the truth.

Am I taking numbers?

You betcha!

---GG