Feels like I've been sitting tight an awfully long time...
But its only the last 2 weeks you have come here to work on you (and your M).
I would like to address a few other things too:
First, you mentioned not reading them yet. But run to B&N (or download) DB & DR. The very first chapter of DB will talk about how divorce is not the answer, it makes a rather compelling case (However, as mentioned above: Except for in cases if there is any type of abuse) of the complexities it will add to your relationship (and there would be MANY). Divorce is not a solution' it is a shortcut to avoid problems (and notice I said avoid, not solve). ***I even seem to recall you can read the first chapter here (or somewhere) for free.***
Second, you mentioned:
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I feel so sure that it's best for everyone
I can tell you with 100% certainty, for "everyone" (the players involved: you, him, your kids, extended families, friends, neighbors, the cat & dog, ministers, daycare, nannies, employers, accountants) it is NOT the best. Well except for attorneys... its actually really good for them
Third, you mentioned having attended counseling. Do you feel that was more of therapy? How did you feel about going? How do you think he felt about going? Did you feel like you got anything out of it? If so, why did you stop going? What keeps you from going back?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13