FINALLY SURFACING

[Fartiltre]

So jolly good to see the Ds after two weeks.

Yesterday W and I spend the entire day with children together.
We met up at 8AM and W was supposed to leave around 1PM but I invited her to stay the afternoon with me and children and she accepted and stayed till around 6PM when kids and I left for our hotel.

The day was fine!
W did most the talking as usual. She started of the day by telling about all the people she and Ds visit and have over – she simply seems to be all good. She tells about her and Ds upcoming vacation and that she has invited MIL to come along because she thinks Ds will enjoy themselves when camping.
She asks about our canoe trip, what Ds and I will do for vacation, how the business is doing…all kind of stuff.
Tells me about her back problems and ask about mine. Tells me about a mutual friend that have told her how well Ds, she and I handles the situation. Tells me about her house renovations.

W also told me that she plans on visiting my brother and SIL – that came as a surprise to me. W has always hated SIL and badmouthed her a lot. Now she plans to visit them. Her choice - but took me a little time to digest. I do not talk to my brother anymore – BD wrecked that as well.

Our conversations has been natural. We had a few moments to ourselves and talked just fine in these as well.
We interact as a couple. Holding bags, sharing costs, splitting up and finding back together when kids want to do different things and so on. I took over an issue with D7 when W gave up. I asked W if she wanted my help and she said yes please.
It works splendid and oh boy it is easier to be two adults around the children.
Few touches but nothing that couldn’t be between two friends.

She texted me yesterday evening ( I didn’t see until this morning):
Hi all of you. Thanks for a lovely day at circus and planetarium. It was VERY hot inside the train I took so I really needed a bath when I got home. I hope you have fun at the hotel and that you have a great day in [city] tomorrow. Hugz mom

I answered this morning:
Likewise :-) Lovely day! Kids were so excited about the hotel. Treasurehunt in the lobby, playing room and disneychannel…. I pulled all through long and hot showers (free and plenty of water) yesterday and it was needed. They are still sleeping but will have to wake them up shortly. I have promised them ALL day at the aquarium but first a big breakfast. Talk soon. Fartiltre

I could mindread (or analyze) a lot on all of the above this truth is that the picture I get is that she is happy and gone. At the same time I remember not to trust anything.
After a day like yesterday I feel like giving up because she seems so gone and at the same time I feel like standing firmer than ever, because I can see how good this is to the children.