He blames me for divorce! Why is he so angry?

[artsy]

CMF,
My entire life I thought and declared out loud "I would NEVER put up with an A". Well, here I am trying to save my M. Truth is, until you go through it you have no idea what the line in the sand is.

He may never confess- would you want him to, really? You already assume the worst. To me, when someone confesses it is to ease their guilt, not make things "right". My H has never officially confessed, but I have an unusually strong intuition. I can say, based on that, that the OW isn't there anymore- I'm sure the EA/PA ruined their friendship and made things awkward for all of their friends and co-workers. He has told me on several occasions he "ruined his life" and his "life is a mess". I don't think he's only referring to our M. My point being, I would rather have a sliver of doubt than a confession that puts a mind movie in my head for the rest of my life. How about you?

If you start working on you and GAL, you will not lose yourself through this. In fact, you may find yourself. It's a horrible process and you will have really tough periods where you feel like you're back at ground zero. Keep moving, and you will be fine.

Do you have an IC? If not, you may want to get one. Mine was a huge help to me (I can't afford him right now, but I would still be going if I could!)

I really can't stress GAL enough- find some new things if old activities like camping make you sad. I get that- i do. I have the same problem. So, I took up running, joined a running club, started goin to church again, etc. none of those things ever involved H so I can enjoy some things that don't remind me of him. I think that is key.

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!!! Lol!!! I've been stuck in mine for various reasons the past 2 weeks and my PMA is suffering tremendously as a result. I'm going camping this week (never been before!!!!!) so my cabin fever will end soon. If nothing else, the past 2 weeks have reinforced the importance of GAL for me.

I know it sounds cliche, but it really does get easier with time. We promise you. You just started, hang in there.