Dealing with WAW Part 2

[labug]

Yes, "she can get a job like the rest of the world." (I can hear the anger in that sentence) What was her job before?

What kind of job is she going to get after taking herself out of the work force for, what 5-6 years, to be a mother to your children? Unless she has a professional education (and that job market is difficult these days) she's going to be starting over, and having to pay daycare etc, etc.

There's often a hint of "well I made the money and all she did was stay home with the kids" in some LBH posts. Are you feeling that just a little bit?

This goes both ways, if we do something to get back at our spouse, we also hurt our children. That's why I say be transparent with your motives. Ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?"

Do you have the kids 50% of the time now?

I didn't suggest that you support her financially. My point was that the expenses on the credit card up to the time you S were family expenses and that as you said nothing has changed so they are your responsibility as the wage-earner in the household. Your contract for repayment of loans isn't with your W, it's with the CC company.

If you don't pay it, what is owed will be split at the time of D and then you'll have added fees/interest on top of what you already owe.

Same for any other assets such as cars. You either decide who gets what or they're sold.

I have strong Christian values. I am a fair person. And a pretty decent person all things considered. There are very few people who ever have bad things to say about me.
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Obviously the best I can be.

Think about his some more. I don't know what Christian values means to you. I was raised in a very conservative Christian church and I can tell you, many of those tolks' values were all over the place.

This is where the rubber meets the road, Pilot. This experience can be your crucible if you're up to it. It sounds trite, but you get to decide whether this makes you better or bitter. Right now the bitter is winning.

What does your faith tell you about facing trials?

How this changes you is truly up to you.

Spring for a L consult. Sounds like you should have some good contacts due to your previous legal dealings.