Dealing with WAW Part 2

[pilot]

Why is that unreasonable? Did marital assets purchase and maintain the aircraft?

The airplane was a tool for personal transportation. The same as a car. It would be no different in her saying I owe her the money we put into a family car during our marriage, even though she enjoyed the use of it.

Wow, maybe you are an adversarial guy. That's just sad. I can understand why it gets your nerves jangling.

Were the lawsuits worth whatever the outcome was?

It is sad, but it is the cost of doing business in real estate development. Lawsuits were everything from defending easements to enforcing contracts. The chapt 11 I ran our development company through alone was $200k in legal fees.

As for the outcomes, they are what they are. Id love to have the legal fees back though! (sorry Wet!!!)

What are your values, what is your mission in life?

How do you see yourself?

I have strong Christian values. I am a fair person. And a pretty decent person all things considered. There are very few people who ever have bad things to say about me.

What kind of father and husband would you like to be seen as?

Obviously the best I can be.

Is "winning" a big deal for you?

Depends on what we are talking about. I am not the guy who has to always be right. I do not feel the need to win just to prove myself to anyone. Divorce is not about winning. It is more about losing to the smallest degree possible.

You've said this a couple of times, and I don't understand it. Can you explain more fully what you mean?

By that I mean I do not HAVE to send W $xxxx.xx a month in support. I am not obligated to do anything to help her during the S. She is a young person and fully capable of earning an income. The state we reside in says we have not been married long enough to entitle her to a standard of living or alimony. Now, support for the children is a different story. I still maintain insurance for the kids and anything the kids may need she can come to me for. She has not done so to this point as she is staying with her parents. Heck, I can barely spend money on day to day stuff for the kiddos because I am staying with my father and he LOVES shopping for the little guys. Grandparents

This is how you're choosing for this to be adversarial. Is there another way that this could be done?

I had thought of different ways, including sending the money directly to her parents so it does not funnel through her. But at the end of the day, she left, she filed, and she has OM. Not exactly enthusiastic about going out of my way to make her life a disney experience.

Really? You have 2 babies with her who need care, so I don't see how financially kneecapping her helps them. Again, I'm not saying you roll over, just think about your motives, your choices and the consequences of those choices, not just to you. Your sons are watching you.

I never implied I would deprive the kids, as I never would. She is not helpless. She can get a job like the rest of the world (I think she has one right now).

I don't think it matters what her mindset is, the important thing is your mindset.

And that's the only thing you can control.

point taken!