Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[MrBond]

"I havr fully detached since i left.. avoided a lot of calls because ive been busy at the gym and saw old friends."

That's not really what you're supposed to be doing. You are supposed to be working on yourself and maturing in terms of what makes a good relationship. Or did that long post that 25yearsmlc made not make any sense to you.

"She got upset and kept wanting me to call her.. i thought about her giving her number to that [censored] guy.. started re-evaluating things."

This shows you haven't learned anything. That guy was her friend. You are the only one who kept getting jealous. That is is something I notice you haven't worked at fixing.

"Kept myself happy and gym really helped.. she invited me to dinner this weekend and put a lot of effort in making me dinner.. she was dressed up as well. She wants it to work and has done a full 180.. said she missed me and all the times she said she wanted to be her own person.. wanted to be alone was because she was angry and just said it.

I dont know if i want to go back.. im here now but leaving tomorrow and she says ill probz b back home by next week."

Wow you're the man. NOT. That feeling she's having will wear off because deep down you haven't changed.

Hey but let's face it. You're having fun now right? Being your own man with no responsibilities. Why not go out and get a girlfriend? I mean if you're not going to go back and change, you might as well go and file the divorce for yourself.

What are you waiting for?

"I told her i would like to do everything properly this time round and it will take me a ling time to trust her again."

Really? She is the one who needs to trust you. You were the one who messed up remember? You'd be lucky for her to take you back.

"I want to do it right so this doesnt happen again. Any tips? Am i on the piecing stage now?"

No you are not in Piecing. The only way that this wont' happen again is if you actually change. So far we haven't heard anything to show that.

"I love you mrbond youve been a great help."

Thanks but I don't know why. You haven't followed what I've been saying. Start growing up and you'll become a better man. The type of man you want to be and the type of man that she wants to be with. May sound harsh, but what you're seeing will change. I've seen it time and time again. The ones that make it through are the ones that change for the better.