Hurt and Confused 2

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Sorry Oad, but I gotta hijack Sandi for a second here. I just got done reading all the posts on Oads new thread about the role of being a friend. I just want to know if that applies to the women too. My STBX H said after the BD that we'd be better as friends. I said something like, 'you've got to be kidding!' At the time I gave him an example of how ridiculous that would be and how I sure didn't see that as a possibility. Maybe when I'm 80! Basically told him in no uncertain terms that's not an option.

So, does the same hold true for the women of a WAH? I would think so. I, too, feel like it's emotional blackmail. And they just want to feel better about what they have done to you.

THANK YOU SANDI!!!!!!! Ditto on all the kudos you've been getting here. AND THANK YOU OAD for letting me step in here.

P.S. BTW Oad, I think you are doing GREAT!!!