Good job. Just be careful about setting time lines. Things happen on her schedule, not yours.
Good luck!
Thanks! Agree re: the time line. Sometimes living in limbo gets to me, and I fantasize that any decision on W's part, whether it's to stay or go, will bring relief. Or that deciding to end this myself will at least bring certainty back to my life. But then I think about what that would mean for our kids, and how happy they are with us all together... and how much happier I would be if we can pull it together... And the fact that certainty is always a bit of an illusion anyway.
All of that helps me remember that this is really an open-ended process... And even if W decides to stay and states so explicitly at some point, DBing is an ongoing endeavor.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
