afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

With this turn of events in my Sitch, should I continue to say Hi or have nice day if I see W in the morning?

I don't think she will say anything back but I am not saying those things to get a reply just doing it to try and remain kind and civil.

I know she has to deal with this on her own but when she is home she is constantly holed up in our bedroom. She will come out to go to the bathroom and to make something to eat and that's it.

If this how she wants it why doesn't she just leave? Just go somewhere, anywhere other then here?

I told her 2 weeks ago that if I made her so miserable then just go. She said I am not leaving my stuff here. I said take it all. She said but you haven't told me what I can take. Again, I said take it all if you take something I wanted I will ask you for it. If you give it to me fine if not then it is my fault. I am trying to alleviate any stress in your life and that way you can move out and your life wont be so horrible anymore.

I said this pretty calmly because I meant it. I had resigned myself to fact that W was moving so there was not much emotion involved.

W is still here though, I asked her once if she knew when she would be leaving. I got no response.

Do I ask again in a couple days or a week or just leave it go since I already asked?

When I moved back in Dec W said I was forcing her out I told her I wasn't and she ended up staying this long.

Last thing I want to do is to be accused of forcing her out because I am not, I just need this to happen because one of two things will happen. She will go and everything will work the she planned it to or it wont work out and reality will sink in.

Actually both events scare me, The first one for obvious reasons and the second one because W might need to come back home and I wouldn't know if it were because it was difficult and our house is a safe haven or she was coming back to maybe test the waters.