Funeral for a husband, love lies bleeding

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Hi cc! Just got done reading your thread. Wow - so much to have happen in such a short time, just like TL. And you both seem to have handled it sooo well given the time frame. I don't know if I could have handled it as well - it has taken me so long to get to this point, but I think maybe it's because after H left (Apr '13) we never really talked much and when we did we were very nice to one another, but he waited until Feb '14 to initiate D proceedings. So I have been through the process of slowly removing the bandage, where you (and TL) have had it ripped right off. I can see the advantage to that.

Amazing how the majority of stories revolve around a WAS/MLC who had been thinking/planning this for YEARS before DB. Never ceases to amaze me. And here they expect us to just go along with the program like we are all on board with it. Then there's the OP - doesn't take 'em long to jump right into another relationship just to make things even more complicated. Thanks . . . just heap the plate to full!!

Oh well, you sound like you are doing a great job. I noticed your final date is only days away, but it appears you are doing well with this? Do you have to be there in court? Mine will be at the end of Aug and neither one of us has to be there. Today, I think I will be 'okay' only because my stbx has and will be gone until the end of July. We literally haven't spoken since May, although he did leave a VM message on my phone June 8 'just saying hi'. He left on a month long vacation June 21. So, I don't know if it's better to have some verbal contact so you can get some idea where they are - I have no clue other than he is just GONE! Big coward....And I really don't want to see or talk to him. I just know it will tear me apart for some stupid reason. Right now I feel like I just want to cut him off and toss him aside like he did to me.

You and TL both went to DivorceCare - I need to look that up and see if it is in my area. Sounds like good stuff, although I have been reading "Rebuilding After Your Relationship Ends" - even have the work book. Has helped quite a bit. Did you use this book in your group?

Wow,sorry to have rambled on a bit here on your thread, but I wanted to say I liked your bucket list - actually there are a few on there I've had on my 'old' list that will make it to my 'new' list. One of those has to do with the aurora borealis except in my case I've never seen it. Wh

And your GAL efforts are really good. Sometimes I find I just do things just to do them, not really something I'm all that excited about, but I usually do find something good in having done it. Do you find that to be true? Tonight a relatively unknown little band is playing at this small venue in one of the local 'shires' that I thought I'd go see either by myself or invite a friend.

Geez, I've gone on enough here, cc. Again, my apologies. I will keep checking on you. You are doing GREAT! (((()))))