Amen !! I am with you on this.. We were perfect in their eyes for years.. They know us inside and out.. They want change but not in us.. That is what they don' t see.. I have flaws but I also have a Huge heart like everybody else.. Our foundation was solid. His unhappiness wasn' t in us as he think it was. He is looking for what is missing in his life and can' t find it. He is creating an even bigger emptiness in his heart. His problem is not with us, nor work, nor other women, nor the neighbours.... It is in his mind, heart and soul...