A few years ago a friend commented to me "I am not HIS to create into what he wants. I am "this way". Love me for me, or don't. <<<<< this is now finally making A LOT more sense.
I am not "HIS" ... companion/friend/sex toy/confidant, etc. He cannot just pick & chose the parts he wants to "borrow/use" on his terms/ his convenience. He removed all those benefits & more when he chose not to be in a relationship with me. Therefore, I will not give them to him. I am an all or nothing package deal. [/quote]
