Still waiting it out.. 8 months on..

[Lifes Twists]

Hi loualea,

I understand how you feel about his suicide attempt. I feel the same sometimes. Did he leave a note about his attempt before her left that morning? I was told if the person attempting suicide leaves a note or lets people know before then it is a cry for help rather than a serious attempt. If he just left like my wife did without any kind of note or indication to someone then it is a serious attempt by the person and is more serious. In either case, you cannot take any ownership for the attempt. it is completely theirs to own as well as the fallout. My wife is facing less contact with the kids, living alone rather than with the girls living with her. I have had to be strong for them. Don't live your life based on his decisions, his feelings, or his actions. They are his and not yours. His feeling are his alone, don't make them yours. The lonely feeling is understandable. The reality is what you allow those feelings to do. You can choose to climb under a rock and pull it over you or you can choose to have those feeling push you into getting out and finding a new life for yourself.