Waw at home / kid situation

[ManHope]

Of course, I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life like this. She claims she is still going through the divorce soon and has mentioned we should tell the kids.

I broke one of her rules the past two days. I went to sleep in my bed, next to her after she fell asleep. I got tired of sleeping on the couch.

She just made a small comment the next day that she is not ok with what I am doing but I changed the subject and we went on. She was fine but I know the convo may come up again.

So in sum I am very puzzled about what "rules" to break.
Some people tell me I shouldn't be a doormat. And standing up for myself in some cases may create a hostile situation as she will be angry.