I should stress that this sort of reinforcing behaviour is something I need to work on but she won't necessarily appreciate right now as it's one of my failings and could be seen as chasing. Tightropes! I tell you I'm not a fan.
Whose behavior are you trying to reinforce......and which behavior?
I either don't understand what you are talking about here, or you've missed the point.
The only thing I am seeing as reinforcing behavior is you gushing over more boots she's bought. I can see that reinforcing her shopping behavior and buying things she doesn't need......b/c she thinks she has your blessings. How does this all play into the more important issues you need to deal with right now?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
