You know all along I've known that this man was brought into my life, and I to his life, to help us through our own issues! Hearing what's happened with your friends really makes me feel better and see what a true learning lesson, and actual gift this relationship is for both he and I! Even if we're finding some big issues that are probably not going to be resolved and will end the relationship, in the long run this is all good!
We even talk about that from time to time, how we both help each other see things in each other that we need to work on. I think what I find so eerie.... is this. I almost feel as if this relationship was destined to happen, so I can go back and work through issues that never got resolved between EX and myself.
Many issues that have come up between us have been issues that were between my Ex and myself. The thing that Im so grateful about is that alot of them are getting RESOLVED in a normal way, through communication and listening! That never happened with Ex and in the marriage for so many things I can't count! And through this new relationship, Im learning that what didn't get resolved in my marriage, WAS NOT MY FAULT! I still carry alot of blame in my heart for things but slowly I learn it was not my fault! I can't tell you how good it feels to actually have someone listen to you and work through something with assertiveness, not passive aggression!! I guess because of that, in a way I've become appreciative for his over the top truth and verbal outbursts because there's not hiding anything there! But the problem is... it's too over the top! My boyfriend is aggressive in his release of anger... verbally that is.
I too knew this man had issues going into this relationship... he didnt' lie! I've gone into this with my eyes open, and have made the choice to keep moving forward with him.
Right now I feel he and I are both at a crossroads as to keep going on, or part our separate ways. I also know I have my own anger issues to work on ( thanks to him pointing that out to me) and Im reading a book on that now.
However... it seems like as far as his anger issues are concerned, he's stuck and he needs help managing that.
