Still waiting it out.. 8 months on..

[Lifes Twists]

Hi Loualea,

I think we all have these days where we think we are doing everything wrong even though we feel we understand how to do it. I also find myself trying to convince myself that my spouse can't possibly be happy and if they would only wake up they would see this. I don't think any of us are the worst BDers. It is a very hard path we follow. It is easy to see what others are doing wrong and give advice. It is very hard to follow our own advice until after each situation presents itself. Right now, my wife does not respond to any contact, not even about our children. Being a father with three teenage girls to take care of I am having to make decisions that I wish she would at least participate in. Sometimes I just want to go down and bang on the door of her apartment and get her to respond. During those times I have to remind myself it won't do any good and I have to be the best father I can for my girls and let my wife deal with her own issues. You will do fine. Don't live your life based on what he may say or accuse you of. Be the strong person you are. Respond to him in a strong confident voice and move forward with your life. If he wants to catch up with you he will. If not then it is his loss.