Our hearing is done my W knows what she is getting.
She told me a couple of weeks ago when I asked her what she wanted and maybe we stay out of court. She didn't answer me but said it is just a calculation which I knew and understood about what I probably was going to have to pay.
If I had an Idea wouldn't my W also have that same idea either by herself or with help from L?
She said this money was to help her get on her feet and be able to move out. Being that she probably made her mind up to move out a couple months ago wouldn't she have started looking for a place of her own or moving in with a relative or possibly even the OM? Why then is she not gone or at least packing things up?
TBH, I don't want her to go but if she does leave I won't stop her. I mean now that she says I'm dead to her and hasn't whispered even a peep since the discussion right after the hearing it is probably best she leaves for the both of us.
Since I backslid on Monday I haven't done anything except ask one or two business like questions about our stuff, I told her about a neighbor who might be losing her Mom soon to old age and just mentioned I might be getting a puppy so if she could let me know when she is leaving so I don't disrupt that by having a puppy getting in the way. All actions on my part were met with silence and attitude.
Can I validate by way of a one-sided monologue?
For instance, empathizing with her about how this must be really tough on her dealing with the anger that has come about due to my being advised to snoop?
Also, the fact that I have L which she said I surprised her and her L with?
These are new things that are just compounding the issues that already got us to this point.
Or do I just continue to practice patience and let the hard feelings subside if they ever do?
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
