Detachment I think I am detached and then I realise how angry I am that he is leaving all this work to me..Does that mean I am not detached..
I am having as little contact as possible but with all the work needed to be done some is inevitable.. So I am feeling aggrieved that he is going out, having a good time with friends and the OW and I am packing and cleaning and looking after a summer garden with no social contacts now school has finished.. He just moves further and further away.. I am not chasing but he imagines I am..I just wait.. and i think he hates that.. but as he is a conflict avoider who would know what he thinks or wants or doesn't want..he just lies and makes up stories in his sad sick head..
