Honestly... what I need to do is remind myself that there is only so much I have control over. Just my behavior and my mind.
I'm not much of a "believer", but I need to remember that for the most part, unless I start engaging in some kind of self-destructive behavior or something, things will play out and work out the way God/the Universe/the Flying Spaghetti Monster intends.
I've been given an opportunity to better myself, and have taken advantage of that opportunity. No none would have been happy in the long term--not my wife, not my kids, not me--if things had continued on the way they were in my marriage pre-bomb drop.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14