Maybell, FWIW, my H has a porn problem, and part of the function of the OW was to act out some of those fantasies.

Eventually, he couldn't really function with her either, without porn and Viagra.
So there you go.

Don't take it personally.

Believe me, I could live the rest of my life without ever feeling again like I am role-playing a porn flick running through his head, while for him, Goat Gal isn't really "there" at all, just some body he's enjoying.

It was degrading, which I can guess is how my H's OW eventually felt too.

For the record, I was pretty adventurous... that stopped after I realized I was the one trying to meet all of his needs, while he essentially ignored what I liked.


Just something to think about.
It's probably not about the OW much at all in your H's case either. She's just a vehicle.

--GG

Me 54 Him 63
M 23 T 29
0 Kids
Funny Farm of Rescues
12/12 OW--
5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied
9/13 Proof OW: ENDED
2/14 Got D papers on my BD
I kicked him out for my sanity
9/14 He wants to "talk"?