"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[MrBond]

When he blows up at you. Before he gets started. Hold your hand up, look him dead in the eye and tell him that he will NOT speak to you like that ever again. That if he's frustrated or whatever, then he can deal with it himself and that you WILL NOT be blamed for things that are his responsibility. Then walk away with a confident gait. This is something you must do to stop his nonsense.