Wife officially walked away just over a month ago

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Update

This afternoon I went to go pick up the kids for a week. Normally my D15 helps watch my S8 if I have to work late or something.
Now when the original break happened, S got me to accept putting the kids at the grandparents for at least a month, but most of the summer as we figured out moving and ourselves.

On one hand, she was smart by making sure I wouldn't lean on the kids as I worked through the hell of initial separation. However, I have been seeing my Kids at least once a week (the grandparents are 110 miles away from me).

So, I text my MIL to pack the kids bags for a couple days so I could have them at the house, and do a bunch of activities. Well, my D15 lost her mind, and now decides that she doesn't love me, and doesn't feel comfortable around me. My thoughts are that my in laws are echoing her feelings (she is a borderline problem child, but I love her anyways).

So, I finally get past the lies and by the in laws and get D15 to talk to me on the phone, and she is at least honest with me, she feels she doesn't love me, and feels weird around me.

Now, when I first text my MIL to pack their clothes up, I get a text from my S (last contact was a call on Sunday when I landed for a layover. She is curious where I am taking the kids, but pleasant. I tell her the scoop, saying I think something is up with D15 and I think the kids need to be in counciling.

W says she will call me later (she was at work 2 time zones ahead). When I get the call, I am walking into a meeting and tell her that I only have 5 min, that I have a meeting (good example of ending the call, putting a little space at least)

She says to call her back later to deal with this.

I end up driving towards the in-laws (5 hours in traffic) to pick up my S8 for a couple days (i'm bringing him back up early Sunday morning). After I get a ways past the traffic bubble I pull over to grab food and facetime the W.

The facetime went good. I had written out my goals, which was to communicate well, and successfully co-parent, and not let D15 catch us in the middle with her adolescent lies and stuff.

That seemed to work out well, we talked just about the kids. It was pleasant, but not warm. Then W noticed that I had changed my hair to a Faux hawk, and said that for years she had been trying to get me to do that, and the girls must really like it.

I am not sure what I should have said, but I said.. there are not girls, I'm just working on me (I'm not sure if I should be a bit more coy, but I don't want to start a jealousy war).

She then asked if I was going to be at the conference coming up, I replied yes, I will be on stage on Tuesday. W replied that she is working the booth for her work. I'm not sure if I should have, but I said hey, let's grab some coffee. It seemed to go well, but after this past two months.. I have no clue if things are good or bad, right or wrong.

Any feedback? Did I handle it right, any improvements?